More bread crumbs for the menfolk

More bread crumbs for the menfolk
Current mood: contemplative
Category: Romance and Relationships

I originally posted this as a response to Gumbo Mama's blog entitled "I want him if . . . (convo.) Now reposting for more detail on what I'm looking for in a partner in case any of you were wondering. ;-)

I want him if . . . (response):

I want him to be able to check in with his emotions and communicate those when necessary.

I want him to be able to see me as an equal, meaning someone with equal flaws but with equal positive qualities that are redeeming

I don't want him to be controlling, dictating what will be tolerated in the relationship and what won't

I want him to relate to me with the spirit of compassion and compromise that it takes to make a relationship work

I want him to understand that respecting me means listening and obliging what respect means to me not his idea of respect

I want him to be confident enough to appreciate real constructive advice/feedback, not dismiss it only accepting positive affirmations

I want him to know that sex doesn't fix all problems, heal all wounds, or serve as a favor I should be eternally appreciative of; It's a mutual exchange

I want him to be secure enough not to need attention from others to feel whole